Tuesday, June 17, 2008
Examining A Life...
T-Bone almost looks like a deer. And yes, that's the fern he fertilized into maturity. It's the best 'Male Fern' we have because of
his attention to detail!
I was talking to my dad on Father's Day and we discussed life, diappointment, joy, success, failure, kids, family, art, politics, animals, nature, trees, sawmills, home ownership, relationships, husbands, wives, parents, cars, heavy equipment, engines, sisters, brothers, gardens, roses, doctors, illness, etc.. Our converstations are always long and always interesting. And Dad never fails to say at the end, "The pleasure was all mine, I love you too." Did Dad do everything right as a parent? No, of course not. Did he try? Yes. Did I do everything right as a daughter? Absolutely not. Somehow we're arrived at this place of mutual respect, and overwhelming admiration being dad and daughter. I love that most about my dad. He never gave up despite my ability to disappoint him. And he never let me think I wasn't capable. NEVER! My sisters and I didn't have to be macho to do what he thought we could do, we just had to have a brain. Honestly, he didn't care if we were a son or daughter, he simply had faith and hope!!! That's a good dad.
I said "Dad, I'm worried I haven't lived up to my own expectations or potential, nor anyone else's. I'm facing my 49th birthday and I don't even think I deserve it." He replied, "Sue, you have examined your life and agonized about it longer than anyone I have every known, so I'll leave you with this:"
"The unexamined life is a wasted life." - Plato
That in a nutshell, is my dad. And that, in a nutshell, is our relationship.
I love you Dad, and thank you.